Recently, a brother sent me a link to a well-written article on narcissists. Not only did it insightfully portray the profile of an abuser-narcissist, it also accurately described how the same individuals are enabled to continue their destructive behaviour by the flawed response of the church. The described scenario plays itself over and over. No denomination is exempt.
While both the article and the responses were insightful, it brought a serious question to my mind which I would like to address.
The church ought to be a place where people find safety. Also, if the Spirit of God really indwells His children, they should be better equipped than anyone to protect their own. What, then, makes the church a place where abusers find a haven to carry out their perverse impulses. Why are believers so helpless in understanding how to deal with them?
A personal encounter helped me to get a handle on what is happening. It also enabled me to realize the spiritual state in which the church currently finds itself.
God created humanity to be in fellowship with himself. When mankind was separated from his Creator because of sin, He immediately made provision for reconciliation to take place. Rev. 4:8 tells us that the Lamb was slain before the foundation of the world. The Bible is a riveting account of men and women who lived in the reality of fulfilling the purpose of their existence. While the memory of those who served themselves is lost and forgotten, the stories of those who served God inspire us through all time.
A statement used in Scripture regarding the antediluvian saints, Enoch and Noah, was that they “walked with God”. Abraham’s life was likewise characterized. He was known as the friend of God. God had specific roles and agendas for them which could only be fulfilled as He communicated His plans directly. The Exodus, led by Moses was an unparalleled story of God using spoken words and miraculous manifestations to fulfill His purposes with men and women. The direction God gave was not only concise – He showed in no uncertain terms the serious consequences of disobedience.
These were God’s words to Joshua before He directed the battle of Jericho: Joshua,3:7 “And the LORD said unto Joshua, This day will I begin to magnify thee in the sight of all Israel, that they may know that, as I was with Moses, so I will be with thee.” Joshua’s leadership, directed by God, brought confident victory with the exception of the times in which he failed to seek guidance before he proceeded to move forward.
The book of Judges has many stories of unnecessary suffering when God’s people took their own way contrary to God’s commands. It also portrays many true heroes. Yet none of these deliverers were men and women of their own making. All of them were chosen by God and their exploits were the result of obediently following Him as they were shown the way.
The era of the kings begins with a sad account of a nation desiring to be like the peoples around them rather than having God as their Leader. The first king, Saul, reflected their nearsighted mindset when he chose to pursue his personal interests rather than following the instructions of God. The result left him a weak and fearful leader. His life ended in dark tragedy accompanied with a humiliating military defeat for Israel.
King David, as Saul, was chosen by God to fill his office as a leader. Unlike his predecessor, he proved himself to be a man “after God’s own heart.” Even when he sinned, his repentance was real in contrast to Saul’s cosmetic remorse, mottled with excuses for his failure to obey.
David did not trust his own judgement in making decisions. Rather, nine times it is recorded that He “inquired of the Lord” regarding his plans. His leadership, marked by deep communion with God, brought a golden age of triumph for the people over whom he ruled.
King David’s intimacy with God is shown in the account of Second Samuel 21:1 “Then there was a famine in the days of David three years, year after year; and David inquired of the LORD. And the LORD answered, It is for Saul, and for his bloody house, because he slew the Gibeonites.” Answers to prayer and receiving God’s leading were the norm for him. That is how he directed his life.
The good succeeding kings like Hezekiah, Jehoshaphat, and Josiah followed the same path of seeking God’s will in their reign. As King David, these kings had to suffer when they failed in this regard. Josiah met a premature death when he went to war on his own initiative. The many evil kings simply ruled with their personal interests in mind. God’s judgement followed them.
The success and prosperity of Israel was a direct result of their relationship with God. It was not simply a matter of doing or not doing certain things. When God was central in their lives, obedience to His laws was automatic. Following other gods and disobedience always brought disaster.
When Christ came as a baby, it was not superior theological knowledge that directed those who found Him. While their familiarity with Scripture came into play, each one received a distinct revelation from God. Both Simeon and Anna led lives of close fellowship with Him. They knew when to be in the temple because of a revelation from the Spirit. Afterwards, even Peter, who had known Jesus for some time, could not credit himself for the fact that he identified Him as the Christ. Matthew 16:17 “And Jesus answered and said unto him, Blessed art thou, Simon Barjona: for flesh and blood hath not revealed it unto thee, but my Father which is in heaven.”
After the ascension, the disciples were forbidden to share the Good News until the promised Holy Spirit had come. When the event took place, there was no doubt that God had chosen to pour His Spirit on the followers of Jesus. Acts 2:4 “And they were all filled with the Holy Ghost, and began to speak with other tongues, as the Spirit gave them utterance.” Their subsequent boldness and influence testified of the presence of God within them.
Very soon, in the account of Ananias and Sapphira, it was obvious that the church was under Divine protection. Also, this story of swift judgement shows that God made it a priority that His Name be sanctified. As a consequence, the fear of God was a reality both to the believers as well as to the observers. Acts, 5:11 “And great fear came upon all the church, and upon as many as heard these things.” Following instances as in the case of Simon, the sorcerer, shows us that God shielded His people from false adherents to the faith.
Decisions were not made at the whim of a leader or the mere consensus of a committee. Acts 13:2 “As they ministered to the Lord, and fasted, the Holy Ghost said, Separate me Barnabas and Saul for the work whereunto I have called them.” Prayer and fasting was followed by direct revelation from God as to how to proceed.
Even Paul, the apostle, needed to lay aside his plans when God showed otherwise. Acts 16:6-10 “Now when they had gone throughout Phrygia and the region of Galatia, and were forbidden of the Holy Ghost to preach the word in Asia, after they were come to Mysia, they assayed to go into Bithynia: but the Spirit suffered them not. And they passing by Mysia came down to Troas. And a vision appeared to Paul in the night; There stood a man of Macedonia, and prayed him, saying, Come over into Macedonia, and help us. And after he had seen the vision, immediately we endeavored to go into Macedonia, assuredly gathering that the Lord had called us for to preach the gospel unto them.”
As in the Old Covenant, God would only carry out His work through those who were in communion with Himself. When they were first anointed by His Spirit and then followed His leading closely, the result was so dramatic that only God could receive the credit for what was accomplished. From Genesis to Revelation, the pattern remains the same: God chooses to do His work through men and women who intimately know Him and experience the reality of receiving His leading and empowerment. God guides His people in a plain path. He makes His will to be known clearly to those who ask.
That brings us to today. What has happened?
I distinctly remember being taught by the church that today we have the Bible, and for that reason no longer need or can expect this direct, personal communication from God. I believed this teaching for some time. The walls in my mind began to weaken when I heard the accounts of what God was doing amongst persecuted Christians. First, I assumed that such manifestations were exclusively found where persecution was present. However, when the church gives the wrong message, God can bypass its teachings to instruct us as to how He desires to relate to us.
That is what happened to me. With God taking the initiative, He revealed Himself to me as the One Who never changes. I began to experience His direction in my life in the distinct way in which He led His children in historic Bible times. Sometimes His warnings or revelations came to me quite unexpectedly. I learned to confidently expect answers to prayer. This gave me a sense of peace – I am known and loved personally by my Father in Heaven!
Recently, I have been listening to the testimonies of former Muslims, Jews, atheists and others to whom Jesus unexpectedly revealed Himself when they formerly had no knowledge of Him. He speaks to people today, sometimes even audibly. He desires close fellowship with His creatures.
The institutions of the church have largely reduced their work to what can be accomplished in the flesh – committees, hierarchies, policies, rules – and too often, God is nowhere to be found. When He is no longer in control, chaos ensues.
A believer from a persecuted country was said to have made a remark to this effect when he observed the free church in the western world: “I am surprised at how much you can do without the Holy Spirit!”
I discovered personally how far our religious institutions have wandered from a vibrant Biblical faith when a case of abuse came up. Although I had been warned by God about the individual involved and had subsequently, with prayer, investigated and gained more knowledge of what was taking place, I was violently opposed by those whom I addressed. Even after my words were proven to be true, there was no acknowledgment that God had revealed to me what was happening. Since then, the congregation has been tossed about in utter confusion and conflict.
This made it clear to me that education about abuse and how to deal with it is useless when there is no connection to God. Those who had attended a symposium on abuse and how to respond to it seemed oblivious to what they had learned when a real-time situation came up. Policies that have been put into place were likewise ignored. I believe that God deliberately put me into the place where I found myself to give me insight into the problem.
I had seriously believed that my brothers in the church would prayerfully join me in investigating and addressing the issue into which God had already given me insight. To be persecuted by the leading personnel of the congregation for the knowledge which I had and to have my faith viewed with scorn in a God Who warned and directed me came as a complete shock. However, it gave me a thorough understanding of where the root of the abuse problem in the church was lying. God’s people had lost their dependence upon Him. Faith was reduced to mental acceptance of theological facts, church rules, and denominational policies. Bible knowledge lacked the enlightenment of the Spirit. Scripture was taken out of context. Verses were inappropriately thrown at those who tried to speak wisdom into the situation.
Protecting the reputation of the institution along with its prominent members has become the priority. Hearing and believing the voices of victims, and those who uphold their cause, is to admit that it, along with its leaders, has failed. The church revels in its Bible “knowledge” but neglects to realize that it has lost touch with the Author of the Book! When we do not acknowledge and depend on Him, He leaves us to our own devices. The result is the current chaos.
I fear that the structure needs to crumble in order for us to realize that it has become our god. Matthew 5:13 “Ye are the salt of the earth: but if the salt have lost his savour, wherewith shall it be salted? it is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men.” I believe this Scripture is about to be fulfilled. Our responsibility now, as believers, is to learn to follow God – to seek His counsel in prayer and to recognize His voice when He responds. Once our spirits are in union with Him, we will care for each other as a family and protect one another. Then we will be in a place of safety when the time of trouble comes.




